Stop Expecting. It Helps !!!

Stop Expecting. It Helps !!!

My mom has always thought me to love and give without expecting anything in return. I’ve grown seeing her give more than she receives. She’s generous and kind to strangers and that baffles me. She’s always giving…..

I’ve failed to understand this gesture. It doesn't come naturally to me. I've always felt that every action needs a reaction in the form of a give and take. And for me, that’s the way the universe pans out. Hence, I’ve always lived life, having huge expectations.

As children we’ve always had materialistic expectations on birthdays, special occasions or on scoring well at school. At work, we look forward to those promotion and pay hikes for the extra effort and hours put in. It just feels nice being appreciated with words, deeds or a sweet something for anything done.

But here’s the catch. Expectations stress, hurt and burn you out. Little things like ….

Waiting for that good night message from someone you love or care for

Waiting for your friends to wish you on your birthday

Expecting for seniors / colleagues to appreciate your extra effort at work

Expecting your BF to accompany you to all the movies and dances and the list goes on……

And as people get busy with their hectic schedules, distractions and chaotic lifestyles they tend to forget.

So don’t stress over little things……. What I’ve learnt over the past few years, if you stop expecting, then everything that happens is a SURPRISE.

I feel a lot lighter and easier, when I do things for friends, family, acquaintances or even strangers, without expecting anything in return.

So go ahead and SURPRISE yourself!!!

Is LIFE bottled down to a Number ??

Social connections on FB, followers on Twitter, Connections on LinkedIn....

Academic scores at School, HSC, Graduation, CAT, GMAT and on we go....

Dates, relationships and @#$%

And then it's work, your salary, ctc, our performance ranking. Or have you hit the half crore mark at 35 ?

And finally the day, when 2 become one…. Is it going to be in your 20s, 30s or when you are ready and comfortable ?

NUMBERS, do or don’t they play a huge role in our lives ?

So here's goes, from the time we get conscious about our surroundings we are pushed to constantly compete and meet societal norms. Whether it’s how long you take to walk, talk or swim. To how many friends you have and what are your college scores. Are you ranking in the Top 10. To finally what age do you tie the knot and have kids. And topping the charts at the corporate front or where ever else.

It all happens so quickly. And before we know it, we are chasing another NUMBER.
Think it helps to Pause. Retrospect and Breathe. And understand what really makes you happy.

We have only ONE life to live. So LIVE it well and fill it with moments that make you smile. Job, timelines and work are essential ingredients of our existence, but it’s important to balance things. So, Spare some time and invest in YOU. Breathe and seize the moment when they come your way…….

Are you clinging onto a number??